You hear us talk often of being either The Dream Girl or The Casual Girl and I guess the main question is how do I know if I am The Dream Girl?
Another question you should be asking yourself is, ‘Is he right for me?”
Our job is to help you get married and have a wonderful long lasting marriage with much joy and happiness, to date without the anxiety and to bring fun back into dating.
So if marriage is not something that you are looking for then we wouldn’t be the right fit for you.
It is not necessarily about getting married at any cost or you will only matter in life if you are married, but like I wrote last week it is about dating with standards, boundaries and with no regrets, tip the odds in your favour if it is meant to be for you.
One thing you don’t want to do is sleep at the wheel, pay attention to the guy you are dating and the relationship you are in, is there red flags you are ignoring?
During our coaching call girls tell us about what the guy has been doing and we say ‘How does that make you feel?’
If you are The Dream Girl, the guy is going to show you with his actions that he respects you, values you, loves you and wants to commit to spending the rest of his life with you, all very quickly and you won’t be in any doubt, you won’t be asking 10 girlfriends ‘Do you think he likes me’.
We hear girls make so many excuses for the guy’s bad behaviour and covering it up by saying ‘But I love him’.
I think as a girl we can fall in love with a guy if we spend a lot of time corresponding and being with him, however for a guy he knows you are The Dream Girl or The Casual Girl as soon as you meet and if you start as The Casual Girl you are most likely to stay there.
We can ‘love’ drinking, sex, drugs, junk food and over spending but is that good for us. We can love a guy that we know is not right for us but does that make it good for us, is that going to be successful in the long run.
If you want to know if you are The Dream Girl here are some tips….
Let him text you first
Let him call you first
Keep your texts short
Only respond to 4 texts from a new guy if he hasn’t asked you out
Only answer a few texts a day, you want to encourage phone calls
Wait to sleep with him until he says I love you and you are in a committed serious relationship or better still until your wedding night
Let him ask you when you will see each other next rather than suggesting the next date
Let him pay on dates (unless you have been dating for a long time you can pay for something small on the date)
Let him say I love you first
No need to buy him gifts unless it is a special occasion
Go on dates rather than always hanging at his house or yours
Let him talk about marriage and kids first
Date him for no longer than a year without a marriage proposal and wedding date set
By doing these things above you are going to get a fairly clear indication if you are The Dream Girl, he will continue to pursue you, if you are The Casual Girl he will most likely complain, blame you and then disappear.
You deserve to be The Dream Girl and whilst you are accepting being a guy’s Casual Girl you aren’t making a space for the guy who will see you as his Dream Girl. You are amazing and deserve the best, you deserve to be loved and cherished, you deserve to have a guy showing you he can’t wait to spend the rest of his life with you as your husband.
Don’t listen to the media’s bad advice, don’t listen to your single girlfriends who aren’t dating well, listen and see what works, look at the great marriages around you, ask how they met you will see many times the guy knew from the start she was the one.
Don’t hang around thinking he will change, I read somewhere the only thing we can change about a male is his nappy!!
We want you to live a life of joy full of abundance not uncertainty and tears you are too beautiful and precious for that.
Let us help you!!
Love Krystal and Lyn
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