Look Left, Look Right, Look Before You Swipe!!
We had some more really exciting news this week, another Dating Angel Baby, there has been so many we are starting to lose count!!
Miss K came to us for Coaching in her mid thirties, she really wanted to find love, get married, have a family and live happily ever after. We were so glad that we were able to help her achieve that.
She had been on many first dates but not as many second and third dates. We found out what the issue was and we helped her to make the necessary changes.
I do giggle to myself when I remember her story as she really didn’t want to go on the date with the guy that asked, because she didn’t like his photo. She was quite adamant about not wanting to go and like I say to all my clients;
Is he in the right age bracket?
Is he in the right location, no more than one hour drive from you?
Is he a non smoker if that is a deal breaker for you?
Does he want kids if you do?
Does he have kids and is that an issue to you?
Is there anything strange he has written in his profile?
Is his picture a ‘screaming no’ or is he a maybe?
If he qualifies from the list above then go on the date.
The first date;
* should only be coffee or a drink
* For not more than 1 hour
* Make it close to home and even after work so you are not inconvenienced
You need to go on dates to practise your dating skills. Go with an open mind, he may not be the man of your dreams, however it is easier to practise on a guy when you’re not crazy about his photo.
So, Miss K goes on the date and said to me. ‘I’m so glad I went he was much better looking than his photo’. If I had a dollar for every time I have heard this I would be very rich indeed. I could employ 10,000 full time staff fixing guys bad photo’s and bad profile’s and never run out of work!!
It saddens me today that we are so quick to judge, so quick to swipe no, that we could be swiping the right guy right out of our life. Imagine if Miss K hadn’t gone on the date, she may have missed this great guy, marriage and baby.
The old saying goes can we really judge a book by its cover?
Men and women and very different, men are much more about the physical, where as we can fall in love with a guy by the way he makes us feel. It’s not to say that you don’t need to be attracted to the guy, however it is very hard to make that judgement from a 3 second glance at a photo.
The attraction is a package;
It is not just physical
What is his character like?
How does he make you feel on the date?
Is he a gentleman?
Is he considerate?
Does he make us laugh?
These are all attractive features to a girl.
I often say if I took a bad selfie of every guy you had a relationship with and posted it on Tinder, I wonder how many of those pictures would you have swiped no to?
Another thing that I suggest to my clients is to slow down and take your time before you swipe. Book an appointment with yourself with no distraction to go through each match very carefully, think to yourself if this was the only guy that contacted me I would be more appreciative and not so quick to dismiss.
It’s like shopping, if there are lots of people in the shop the salesperson can be a bit nonchalant, however if you are the only customer of the day they are going to take the time to find out what you are looking for and how they can help. You may have had a quick look around and nothing catches your eye, the salesperson then suggests you try something on even though it isn’t your style, colour or taste. Guess what? iIt looks amazing and you are so glad you gave it a go, same with dating, you might be very pleasantly surprised by giving the guy the chance.
Just like you look left, look right before crossing the road so you don’t get run over, look both ways he might just be waiting on the other side of the road.
Love Krystal and Lyn
Don’t forget our next Dating and Relationship seminar which is on Friday 22nd March – here is the link
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Sometimes you need an Angel by your side to hold your hand.